To my daughter’s husband…

Posted on February 28, 2015 by Megan

It’s been so very long since I’ve written. Things have been very busy in my little world, but I haven’t forgotten about you! If you want an update on my life, check out the “about me” tab! It’s good to be back to writing!

Little Miss Mattie is growing up. It used to be that I’d blink and it felt like she’d grown two inches, but now it’s different in a heart wrenching and frightening way. She’s not only growing up in height (which is getting substantial—she’s already passed her grandmas!) But she’s growing up in maturity too.

She’s stuck in that in-between world of having adult thoughts, teenage emotions, and childlike desires.

She’s a tween.

I’ve always felt that the older she gets the more I’ll be able to relate to her. I work with teenagers and have a deep passion for impacting this culture through that work. There are many times I feel more connected to the younger generations than I do with adults—probably because I spend so much more time with them! So, you can imagine my surprise when, as Mattie’s grown closer to the age I’m so comfortable teaching, a switch hasn’t flipped that made us instantly relate to each other. If anything, I feel like the void has grown. Our relationship has been a struggle. Hormones and emotions have run amuck. Feelings and things have been broken. I hurt for her and what she’s going through. I remember how it feels. She’s grasping for anyway to have some semblance of control. She feels ugly, unwanted, unworthy—too much, yet not enough. She has crushes on boys—something she doesn’t even know how to process. She knows that she should only seek to please God, but when a boy notices her, her heart melts. I see it. I understand it. Believe me. I get where she’s at. I think all women do. That’s why I’m going to address this blog to the boy who will one day win her heart. Because, like it or not, she’s going to believe him much more than she believes me.

I will never forget that moment when I was holding her in my arms as an infant and I realized that I would die to save her—kill to protect her.

To my one day son-in-law,

First, I get that this is bit creepy me writing to you. But, I’m in a desperate place. You have to understand the depth to which I love my daughter. There are no words for the deep well of emotions that encompass all that she is to me. I will never forget that moment when I was holding her in my arms as an infant and I realized that I would die to save her—kill to protect her. It’s a humbling experience—especially when you realize that those emotions are just a drop in the bucket to what God feels for us. But, I digress. The reason I’m writing you is that you will have an immeasurable impact on her life one day.

Please know that I’m praying for you, and have been since Mattie was a baby. I have a slip of paper in my Bible where I’ve written down all of the attributes I hope you will have. I know you won’t be perfect, and I know that God does amazing things through broken people. I have prayed for your salvation, for your purity, for your chivalry, and so much more. These general concepts have been my main focus, but I’ve also asked God to grow in you the things that only He can know that my sweet girl needs.

Because, she does need things from you. She needs to know that you think she’s beautiful. I see her face drop when she sees a beautiful actress or model. I see her look down at her body and start nit-picking every “flaw.” I can tell her every second of every day that she is the most beautiful thing God has created, and she won’t believe me. The world is telling her otherwise. Her peers are telling her otherwise. She is telling herself otherwise. But, when you look in her eyes and tell her that she is the most beautiful thing to you, it will make her heart soar. Whether I like it or not, I can’t win the battle that’s waging inside her. I can teach her to be a strong and godly woman, but she’ll still doubt. She’ll still fear. But when you tell her, it will change everything. It may take some convincing, but don’t ever stop telling her. You were created to complete her. You were created to love her like Christ loves her. He adores every part of her and created her just the way she is. Tell her every day how beautiful she is.

She gets so frustrated with her dyslexia, and she gets so tired of fighting so hard. Know that God created both of you for a purpose, and I know that he will equip both of you to those means, but it won’t be easy.

Empower her. Dream with her, and help her achieve those dreams. She doesn’t know what she’s capable of. She gets so frustrated with her dyslexia, and she gets so tired of fighting so hard. Know that God created both of you for a purpose, and I know that he will equip both of you to those means, but it won’t be easy. Build her confidence with your confidence in her. However, confident people can have egos that get in the way. Don’t forget that you’re in this together. Don’t ever “put her in her place.” You have become one and you should be each other’s best cheerleaders. Stand with her—even if she’s wrong. She needs your support. Take the adventure that life is together. Be each other’s helpmates.

Be honest with her. Tell her when she’s messing up. Call her on it when temper and ego get out of line. Trust me, she’ll do the same for you! Temper her ire with your love. But, most of all, never fail to be on her side. Fight for her at every juncture of your life. Be her knight. She will be willing to grow when you love her—even when she’s wrong.

Don’t let the scars of your past taint the future you can have. Dare to love recklessly. Every girl wants to be loved with nothing held back. Don’t hold a part of yourself back from her. Don’t try to do what society says. Don’t try to protect yourself from being hurt. You will be hurt, but know this: Strength and beauty come from the deepest scars. Love her knowing the pain that it could cost you and do it anyway. She is worth that. After all, isn’t that what God did for us?

Finally, don’t listen to me.

Finally, don’t listen to me. Don’t listen to your parents either. I know that sounds crazy, but parents have plans and agendas. I will always love her, and I will try to do the same for you, but I can’t promise anything. I have seen first hand the way over-involved parents can poison a marriage. Ask advice if you need it, but make your own choices. Seek wise counsel, pray, and make your own mistakes. You will not lose our love—ever. Show her that you love her enough to make your family with her and that you’ll battle any force that might damage it—even if that force is me.

You see, she needs so much more than her father, and I will ever be able to give her—no matter how deep our love is for her. God is preparing you to be exactly what she needs. I’m praying for you. I know this life is a hard one, but it’s worth it–she’s worth it. Even now, as I see her growing and struggling, I know that God has a plan and I can trust it. He may choose to lead her to stay single. However, whatever the life is that he has planned, I’m going to keep fighting and praying and trusting. Because, even though I don’t know you, I know God. I know He loves her more than I ever could. And He loves you too.

Staying Alert in Christ,

Megan

Lord, help me show her she’s enough…

Posted on May 1, 2014 by Megan

Before Easter I had the awesome opportunity to take my daughter to the “Secret Keeper Crazy Hair Tour,” in a nearby town. If you have the chance to take your daughter to one of these events, please do so. Don’t let conflicts get in your way—it will bless you and your daughter immensely! One of the most impacting moments was after one of the speakers shared her personal testimony about her battle with body image. After sharing that God doesn’t want the girls to be “normal” but instead that they should be endeavoring to be “Crazy” for God, the speaker asked everyone’s eyes to close. She led the girls in laying their own hand on the area of their body that they don’t like—a place that they feel is unattractive, ugly, or not “normal.” After doing this the speaker asked that the girls pray with her giving that area, which they have no control over because their bodies are changing, over to God. She then asked God to clear the girls’ minds of the desire to be anything but themselves. It was an amazing experience. I opened my eyes, tears streaming down my face, to see my daughter looking up at me, tears streaming down her face. Then I hugged her and prayed over her. I believe it changed our relationship forever.

In the following weeks I’ve had many opportunities to remind Mattie of the things she learned and experienced at the event. She’s battled hormones, a boy who put a mean sign on her back, a virus that caused her to miss a week of school, and then a double ear infection that caused her to miss even more. She’s been weary and overwhelmed. One day she said to me, “Mom, no matter what I do, I’ll never be enough.”

It broke my heart. It also reminded me of a speaker I listened to at our denomination’s women’s retreat several years ago. I wish I could remember her name so I could give her credit here, but I just can’t bring it to mind. What she said made an impact on me because she spoke right to what I was feeling as a young married mom. She said, “The world tells you you’re not enough and too much all at the same time.”

“The world tells you you’re not enough and too much

all at the same time.”

I’ve felt that. I’ve felt like there wasn’t enough of me to go around. Like I’d never be super mom. Like I am doomed to fail as a mother and as a lover of Christ. The world shoved works down my throat and asked me to “strive” to do better. All the while I felt bombarded by the feelings that I was too “over the top,” or “too emotional,” or “too excited.” I was not enough and yet too much.

What made things even worse was that those messages weren’t sent to me by a males-centric society, but rather, by other women! It went deeper than just what my clothes looked like to things like how long it took me to find a Bible verse or what I chose to wear to church. I felt like I had to constantly strive to be something I’m not—and every person had different expectations. I could never be enough. I never felt at peace. I still don’t, if I’m truly honest.

I remember being Mattie’s age. It was a horrible time. I remember sitting in my bed crying at night because the other girls at school were so cruel. I was a hugger and I just loved everyone. I remember my mother trying to get me to “just calm down,” and to “not wear my heart on my sleeve.” I remember sobbing and saying, “but you’re asking me not to be me.”

“but you’re asking me not to be me.”

What I’ve been pondering this week is, “How do we as mothers do this to our daughters?” Do I make Mattie feel like she’s not enough and yet too much? If I’m completely honest, yes, I do that. I don’t want her to be hurt by the legalism at her school, so I sometimes don’t let her wear what she wants—even if it fits dress code and it’s modest. I’ve seen her respond to this by not wanting to wear her hair down so that people won’t think she’s too proud of it, or that they think she’s a “girly-girl.”

All the while, I’m telling her things like, “calm down,” “not so loud,” “act like a big girl please.” I’m showing her that who she is, isn’t enough, and yet it’s too much. I’m training her to do the very things that I have fought to free myself from.

I told you at the beginning of this blog that this event changed our relationship forever. It’s starting with me. I’m starting to say things like “If you like your hair like that, then do it,” and after checking to see if something is modest asking, “Do you feel pretty in it? Then wear it!” Now, I’m not quite to the point of letting her wear paisley and plaid together (because I have to teach her some decorum) but the point is, I’m trying to accept her for who she is—so that she knows she’s enough for me.

I’m trying to accept her for who she is—

so that she knows she’s enough for me.

Our Heavenly Father created each of us because He wanted our companionship. He has a plan for our lives, and He never questions if we’re enough. He never feels that we’re too much either—because He made us to be who we are. He knows that we are perfect in our salvation from the blood of His precious Son. So why do we let Satan convince us that we’re not? Why do we let others do that to us?

That’s over at our house. My frog catching, snake loving, horse riding, girly-girl is perfectly created by a perfect God. It’s time I started treating her like it.

Lord, I repent of not showing Mattie her beauty that you placed in her. Help me to see her through Your perfect eyes. Help me to show her that whatever she does, if she does it for You she will be enough. Thank you Lord for re-making me as a mom…I love you Lord. Amen.

Staying Alert in Christ,

Megan

Playlist:

Jonny Diaz, “More Beautiful You” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XNqQUojBg84

Casting Crowns, “All You Ever Wanted” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ea-uQFPcvaM

Big Daddy Weave, “Redeemed,” http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VzGAYNKDyIU

Lord, give me Your eyes for her…

Posted on April 8, 2014 by Megan

Last night was a rough night at our house. We didn’t have any major mental melt-downs, thank the Lord, but we did have some turmoil. If I’m being completely truthful, the stress started the night before. Mattie and I came home from a fun time doing “chores” at my parents’ home (it’s hard to call them chores when Mattie loves them so much). Any time with horses is heaven on earth for her—and we were both so wired that we didn’t fall right asleep. This meant we woke up tired, and by the end of the school day for her and the workday for me, our fuses were short.

My plans were very well thought out and if they went as I’d hoped, I knew I’d be in great shape for the rest of the week.

After I picked her up from school, I immediately knew that the evening was not going to go as I had planned. My plans were very well thought out and if they went as I’d hoped, I knew I’d be in great shape for the rest of the week. I needed to sew her costume for school on Wednesday. She could do her homework at the table where I was sewing, and she’s been wanting to cook supper lately, so I thought I’d let her! This would give me extra time to work on her dress!

Unfortunately, that’s not how the evening went.

First, my husband hadn’t had time to get groceries before he left for work, which meant I needed to go pick them up—that was going to cut about an hour out of my plans, but hey, that’s not bad. Then when Mattie got in the car, she announced she had 4 pages of math homework and a paper to write (because she’d forgotten about it over the weekend). Ugh! There goes our great evening.

I took a deep breath, and we made a plan together. We hurried through the grocery shopping, and after doing chores when we got home, I set the timer for her to play outside for 15 minutes while I got things lined up to sew her dress. That’s when our evening started to fall apart…

“Mom! I’m so stupid!”

She came in from looking for toads outside, with big bags under her eyes. I could tell she was exhausted, but I said to her, “You can do this!” She decided to work in my room instead of at the table so the sewing machine wouldn’t distract her. And then the questions started.

“Mom!” came the scream from the back room, “I don’t remember how to classify this triangle!”

“Mom! I can’t figure out this math at all!”

“Mom! I’m so stupid!”

“Mom! How am I supposed to write this dumb paper, when I don’t even know who this guy is!”

And it went on…with every gripe and complaint I became more and more frustrated…

My thoughts raced:

“Why can’t she just do her homework without all this.”

“I get so tired of her complaining.”

“If she’d just try before she gripes!”

“I’m never going to get this dress done!”

My exasperation escalated with every complaint. My evening that I had mapped out was down the drain, and I was never going to get this dress done! That’s when things exploded.

“Mom! You don’t want to help me! You don’t care about me at all!” With that, she ran into her room and slammed the door.

I lost my temper. I told her she that she was ungrateful, and that she had to stay in her room and that she couldn’t cook supper and that I wasn’t sewing her dress after all because now, I had to cook supper and I couldn’t get it all done! I’m not supermom!

I called my mom—the original super mom—and started venting.

“Mom! Why can’t she just do her work!”

“Mom! She’s making me crazy!”

“Mom! I’m making this costume for her, and she won’t let me work!”

“Mom! Will you please talk to her?”

My mother, always the peacemaker, said sure. Before long, Mattie came out and truly apologized. I told her, “Why don’t you take a break from your homework and start supper.” She quietly complied, and we visited about school and about life, as I coached her cooking and continued to sew. Later, I called Mom back.

“What did you say to her to make her stop?”

“I just told her that you both were feeling the same thing…”

“What?”

“You both were frustrated, overwhelmed, and low on time. Once she saw that, she calmed right down.”

Wow.

How many times have I told her that she needs to think of others before herself, and she needs to show love for people despite what she may be feeling! How many times have I prayed for God to give me His eyes for the world, and yet, I’ve not asked the same thing for my daughter? I was so caught up in my own timeline and plans that I missed that she was feeling the exact same way. How is it that two people going through the same exact emotions can get so angry at each other and forget that, “since God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.” (1 John 4:11)

How many times have I prayed for God to give me His eyes for the world, and yet, I’ve not asked the same thing for my daughter?

Lord, I’ve been working so hard to teach Mattie to live like You. Help me to see her through Your eyes so I can see the big picture of her life—not just the details. Mold me into the mom You want me to be…Amen.

Staying Alert in Christ,

Megan

Playlist:

“Give Me Your Eyes” Brandon Heath: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P5AkNqLuVgY

“My Own Little World” Matthew West: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=M9Yasgzjc0w

Burn Me Up Lord…

Posted on April 3, 2014 by Megan

Photo by Sandy Johnson

I love spring in the Great Plains. I love the look of the grass as it peeks through the blackened dirt after a field has been burned. I love the smell of smoke in the air. I love the muted look the smoke gives the farmlands around us when the sun shines through it. For those of you who don’t live in the heartland, you probably don’t understand why my thoughts of spring relate so much to fire. You see, each spring the Flint Hills light up with lines of fire. These controlled burns destroy all the dead undergrowth left over after the cold of winter and clear the pastures of parasites. Farmers do this so new, fresh, healthy grass can grow back in its place. It’s a beautiful and powerful sight for those of us who live here.

: Photo by Michelle Tessaro. Check out http://www.michelleslens.com!

Recently I realized that this practice is much like what some of us attempt to do during Lent. Lent is a time when some Christians choose to give up something that they care about for the 40 days prior to Easter. We do this because we want draw closer to God through our sacrifice—it’s 40 days long to remind us of the 40 days that Jesus went into the wilderness to fast and be tempted. Every time we think of the item that we have sacrificed, we instead turn our hearts toward God and the greatest sacrifice ever. There’s something special about this time. It’s a time where we really evaluate what is important in our lives—and what we can do without. It’s like spring-cleaning for our hearts: just as the burning fields clean out the dead undergrowth that survived the winter, Lent asks us to give up things that we’ve been holding onto that aren’t good for us and we don’t need, all while drawing closer to the One and only God.

This year, instead of giving up something I really like for Lent, God asked me to break the rules. I decided to ask God what part of my life He wanted me to give up—what needed to be burned away. He showed me areas I didn’t want to see. He showed me ways I’d hurt those that I love, and asked me to give up something I didn’t even know I’d become attached to—harsh words.

Lately, I’ve been convicted that we as Christians need to behave more like Christ in the political arena. I’ve written about this conviction in the past, but this revelation was new. I’ve worked to tame my tongue on social media and in public, but God showed me how I’ve been harsh with my daughter. He spoke to my troubled heart: “Don’t forget her, she’s so much more important than the world…”

: Photo by Travis Harrison

It’s like she’s standing on a cliff. She’s teetering between the young woman she wants to be and one that is ruled by her hormones and emotions. Her behavior is, sometimes, very frustrating to me. I find myself saying things like, “You’re being such a brat!” and, “What’s wrong with you!” Granted, there are much worse things that I could be saying, but the fact that even though she was acting like a brat, and she does seem to lose her mind at times, it doesn’t give me the right to point out to her what she already knows.

You see, she knows that she’s being difficult, and she doesn’t like that she is. In her heart of hearts, she wants to be the sweet, kind, and empathetic child she used to be—but her hormones, her strong will, and her pride are keeping her from doing that right now.

The old adage, “Sticks and stones may break my bones,

but words can never hurt me,” is a lie straight from the pit of hell.

The old adage, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words can never hurt me,” is a lie straight from the pit of hell. Scripture tells us quite the opposite. It tells us in Proverbs 18:9 that “death and life are in the power of the tongue…” Over and over, scripture says that our words are powerful, and we have the ability to speak good into the world or speak evil. We can conquer demons, defeat enemies, and heal relationships with our words. My words, whether accurate or not, have power in my daughter’s life. I can choose to speak joy, peace, and love into her life, or I can choose to push her over the cliff she’s teetering on. And, that power rests with me.

This Lenten season, every time I’ve gotten angry or frustrated with her sass or over-reactions, I’ve turned my heart toward God and asked that He give me the words that speak life into her–instead of discouragement– while still correcting her behavior. God is working on her. He’s been burning down brush piles in her heart—just like He’s doing in mine. I can’t forget that. I need to be on her team, to be the voice that helps bring new life to the barren field left behind her anger and frustration. I am to be there and love her unconditionally after the last ember has died off. After all, that’s what God has done for me.

I love spring. I love the promise of new life—eternal life. I love how God renews the earth and my heart each year. Thank you Lord for remaking me…Burn me up, Lord.

: Photo by Natalie Winters

Staying alert in Christ,

Megan

For more information about why pastures are burned: http://thepioneerwoman.com/blog/2011/05/why-we-burn-our-pastures/

Playlist:

“Speak Life” Toby Mac: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZeBv9r92VQ0

“Wonderful Words of Life”: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=U7x3OX6v5_o

“Words” Hawk Nelson: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anVweXDcxhA

“Making Me” Sidewalk Prophets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGkmPeVpBbI

“Starts with Me” Tim Timmons: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pslWA2VRmxg

What do You want me to say, Lord?

Posted on February 27, 2014 by Megan

Hello friends! I pray that you have had a wonderful couple of weeks, as have I. God’s been challenging me in new and exciting ways, as I continue this journey of drawing closer to Him. I’m excited to share these new insights with you over the next few weeks, but God is still growing them in me. So, today, instead of going terribly deep, I thought I’d share a simple, yet deeply profound discovery. I pray it blesses you.

This discovery started a couple of weeks ago when I was fretting (I do this way too much, don’t you!) I had the children’s sermon in church. I worry every time I have it because, first, I want to share something that will impact these children and perhaps give them a clear memory that God will use in their lives, and second, I want to remind the adults in the congregation of the simple, yet profound, joys that God shares with us. These building blocks are so important. I feel sometimes we lose track of them as we get older, and being reminded of them is a gift. So, I feel a deep obligation to speak what God would have me speak. In other words, I put a lot of unneeded pressure on myself. I usually try to do an object lesson and have something to give the kids that reminds them of that lesson; however, after a long hard week, Saturday arrived and I still had no idea what I was going to teach about.

I was so tired—as I have been frequently lately—and my husband, daughter, and I were grabbing a quick bite to eat out because I didn’t want to cook. (On a side note, my husband has taken over the cooking this week because I’m still feeling very tired. I have to brag on him and how good he is to me. He works the evening shift and isn’t home when we have supper, but he’s put things in the crockpot, pre-cooked meat, and even purchased all our groceries this week! I am one blessed woman!) When I shared my dilemma, Mattie, my sweet daughter who is incredibly horse crazy, piped up: “You could teach about Muley!” Muley is a horse her Papa is giving her at the beginning of summer break. I laughed because I knew she was going to say this. We don’t go a single day without at least 15 questions about her new horse. My response to her suggestion: “Mattie, I know you love Muley, but how can I share about God through that?”

Isn’t it so amazing how God works? Jason said, “I’m sure you can think of something that horses do that you can use to teach the kids about God.” I paused, and asked God, “What do you want me to say Lord?” I immediately got the picture of an old rickety bridge not far from my childhood home, and a memory surfaced.

When I was young, not much older than my daughter is now, I used to ride my horse Chata down the road by our home. About two miles down this road was a very old bridge. The bridge was low to the water and often when it rained the water would wash over the top of it. This made holes in it where the cement and gravel had washed away, and you could see the creek beneath.

One afternoon in the spring I was riding Chata, and we came upon this bridge. The water was up, but it wasn’t rushing. It was more like a gentle stream over the top of the road. We’d been here often enough that I knew where to cross to avoid any washed out portions of the bridge. I clucked at Chata, but she balked. I couldn’t get her to go through the water. After a couple attempts, I got off her back and walked her across the creek—getting myself wet in the process, but earning her trust. We came back to that creek many more times as I got older, and she never balked again. She trusted that I knew where to lead her and she would be safe.

I once asked my dad why horses feared water like they do. He explained that horses have little to no depth perception. A horse can see the water, but it can’t see how deep it is. So, while I could see that the water was only a couple of inches deep and not dangerous, she couldn’t. She didn’t know that she’d be safe until I got off her back and led her through her trial.

God whispered, “That just like you.” Immediately I saw the world through Chata’s eyes. With God as my rider, guiding me through the crags and snares of life, I’ve learned to trust His design. But, oh, how many times have I balked. I come across a trial, and I can’t see the depth of it. I can’t tell if I’ll make it through to the other side, or if it will swallow me whole. But, God can. He knows where the holes are. He knows how deep it is and how long I’ll be in it. I just have to learn to trust him—like Chata learned to trust me. How many times has He climbed out of the saddle to walk beside me and coax me through life? How many times have I slowed a blessing because of my fear and unbelief? I need to completely surrender control to my Rider, and trust that He will keep me safe.

Amazing. God always has a plan. It’s a blessing to have a horse-crazy daughter after all. The neatest thing is that I remembered that my sweet Chata, who passed away my freshman year in college, is the grandmother to Mattie’s Muley. How precious is our God. Things have a way of coming full circle. The blessings from the Lord are immense and beyond my understanding.

Lord, thank you for giving me such wonderful reminders of who You are. Thank you for being a faithful friend and rider. I surrender control to You and trust that, even when I don’t know the outcome, You do. You give me so much more than I deserve. I love You. Amen.

Staying Alert in Christ,

Megan

Playlist:

“You Lead” Jamie Grace http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JFmSzL2ppvg

“Keep Making Me” Sidewalk Prophets http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGkmPeVpBbI

“Speak Life” Toby Mac http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZeBv9r92VQ0

“Love Take Me Over” Steven Curtis Chapin http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W8DiZhNVu1I

Lord, are You my “room of requirement”?

Posted on February 12, 2014 by Megan

I started writing this blog over a week ago. It just didn’t seem to be coming together, and I almost chucked it. But, isn’t God good! He’s shown me so much more this last week, and I pray that He uses this blog to bless you!

A confession…

I have a confession to make, but before I get disowned, please hear me out. Okay, here goes: I have read the entire Harry Potter series. Now, wait! Before you close this blog out, let me explain.

I started reading the series when my daughter was in kindergarten. Prior to this, I’d held the view that the series was bad news, and that Christians should stay as far away from them as they could. So, I did. But, then my daughter brought home an ABC book from the library. (She was in public school at the time, but it was a small and very conservative school) The book was about all of the wonderful books you could check out from your local library. Being an English teacher, this excited me that she’d checked it out—and guess what, “H” was for Harry Potter.

When we read this little book together, my daughter knew every title but this one. So, I told her it was a book about magic and quickly moved to the next page. However, this interchange got me to thinking, “Has Harry Potter become part of our culture, or is he just a passing phase?” The more research I did, the more I became convinced that this book series not only had a huge fan base, but many terms that were invented for use in the book were becoming part of our language—it was growing into a part of the culture as a whole. Humph.

My husband and I sat down and discussed this. We agreed that I should read the series so as to know what to do if our daughter ever decided to read she wanted to read it. We did this prayerfully, and I asked God to expose every danger and give me discernment as I read. I was convinced I would hate every minute of it. I was sure I’d find sin and discord at the turn of every page!

I didn’t. What I found, and later verified through research, was a series that is not unlike that of Narnia, or The Lord of the Rings (with a marked difference in the author not desiring to impart Christ). In fact Rowling admits that much of what she wrote is based in her Christian upbringing—although she also admits to have many other influences as well. I believe that, like people, books have good and bad in them. Some are not worth reading—but some, even with their flaws, are. Now, I’m not going to try to convince you to read the series. It’s okay for us to disagree. However, I felt you needed to understand this background before I got to the main point of my blog.

And now, getting to that point…

I’ve been blessed with an amazing opportunity to serve on a ministry team for a local women’s retreat. I’ve attended this retreat every year, without fail, for twelve years. It’s blessed my life, changed me, and challenged me. You can imagine how excited, and nervous, I was to attend my first planning meeting. After introduction of the new members of the team and some housecleaning discussion, our first activity was to take a prayer walk (in the freezing cold) around the grounds to pray for the retreat, and more importantly, to ask God what His will was for this year’s retreat. As I started to pray, I couldn’t get my brain to just settle in on God…so I sat down and started writing out what God had done for me through this retreat. Soon enough words started flowing that I knew weren’t from me, and as I prayed I said, “God, what is it You want? How can this retreat help Your people?” Words that all started with “R” starting flowing onto the paper. He wanted the retreat to be a rest, a renewal, to provide revelation, bring revival, a refreshing of the Word, a requirement…wait…what was that Lord? How can we make this retreat a requirement? That seems harsh. I prayed and waited. What came to mind? Harry Potter—weird, I know. I prayed that God would make it clear to me that He was speaking, and his answer, “I can be that.”

“You can be what Lord?” The image of the “room of requirement” from the Harry Potter series again came to mind.

“I can be that…’

The room of requirement is “… a room that a person can only enter when they have real need of it… when it appears, it is always equipped for the seeker’s needs.” (Doby the house elf) So the Lord can be a magical room that shows itself when a person is need. I wrote down the idea and looked at the time. My time was up, and I had to get back into the meeting. Oh how I wanted to spend some real time—even in the freezing cold—visiting with my Lord about this! Even while cutting the conversation short, I knew this idea was something God was going to build upon in the next few days. I had no idea that it would be weeks, and He’s still showing me more.

I started pondering the times in the book series when the room showed itself. The two instances that were most prominent in my memory were when the children of Hogwarts were preparing for battle against the forces of evil and they needed a place to practice, and when that evil had taken over, they found a place or refuge where they could congregate together in safety. The room, in both instances was equipped with exactly what the children needed. It provided a safe place and a refuge—it gave them just what they needed. I also found it interesting that the room was located on the 7th floor of the castle—a holy number.

As I continued to pray about it, God showed me that the analogy wasn’t perfect. He does not give what is needed to those whose work is for evil—and the room in the story does. And, He is not limited in what He can give, while the room cannot make food for those who need it. However, it’s an interesting thought. What if we truly made God our “room of requirement”? What does His word say about His desire and ability to meet our daily needs?

“And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:19

“Therefore do not worry, saying; “What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we wear? For it is the Gentiles who strive for all these things; and indeed your heavenly Father knows that you need all these things. But strive first for the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:31-33

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat, or about your body, what you will wear. For life is more than food, and the body more than clothing. Consider the ravens: they neither sow nor reap, they have neither storehouse nor barn, and yet God feeds them. Of how much more value are you than the birds!” Luke 12:22-24

“So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of its own. Today’s trouble is enough for today.” Matthew 6:34

“And can any of you by worrying add a single hour to the span of life?” Luke 12:25

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled, and do not let them be afraid.” John 14:27

These verses are just the tip of the iceberg. God continually shows us in His word that He wants what is best for us. He wants to give us what we need. He wants to give us so much more than our simple minds can fathom.

In regard to the Retreat, God showed me that He wants the women attending to see that He can supply all that they need. They don’t need anything but Him. Most of us know this, but we don’t live it out day-to-day. We try so hard to be self sufficient, that we forget that we need to be dependent. We need to completely depend on Christ for our every need. God can be our very own room of requirement. We can enter into His presence and have every need met and every heartache healed.

I find it amazing that God can use anything to show me biblical truths—even Harry Potter.

Lord, today, it’s my desire to become completely dependent on You. Lord, keep calling me into Your presence. Don’t let me wander Lord. I want my every breath, and my every step to be about You. Amen.

Staying Alert In Christ,

Megan

Playlist:

“Declaration of Dependence,” Steven Curtis Chapman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7GpwrBn0eXQ&list=PLCC72C714A25775FB

“Magnificent Obsession,” Steven Curtis Chapman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cel_O-qy0i0

“Keep Making Me,” Sidewalk Prophets: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BGkmPeVpBbI

Why don’t people get Your grace, Lord…

Posted on January 22, 2014 by Megan

Over our busy Christmas I had the opportunity to sit down with my mother, brother, and his beautiful wife and visit. This doesn’t happen often in our family–that we’re all in the same place, and we have time to just visit. My brother lives three hours away from us to the east, and my mother and father live two and a half hours away to the south. So we really only see each other on birthdays and holidays. So, this time was precious; however, it became stressful to me very quickly. My brother’s and my relationship has always been a bit strained. We’re just different enough that getting along wasn’t always easy. I’m betting I’m not alone in this, as it’s very common among siblings.

Our discussion was unusual in that my brother and his wife were discussing their faith—something they don’t do often around me because I can be overbearing and opinionated, like my dad. So the fact that they opened up was great, and my reaction to what they said will probably stop them from doing it again anytime soon, which makes me sad. (I really need to learn to control my reactions, but I digress) We were discussing grace—you would think a safe topic as everyone loves grace, and we are all three saved—and when it became “real” to them that they didn’t have to work their way into heaven. I was shocked to find that they had only recently made this realization. I immediately said to my brother, “How can you have sat through all of Pastor Bodenhammer’s sermons growing up and not have gotten grace!” Not a good response. My brother’s face immediately changed from enthusiasm over this new and wonderful revelation, to a shut-off, defensive wall. I realized once again that I had blown a great opportunity to connect with him. Why is it that we so often miss the opportunities to bless our own family? I could get into analyzing sibling relationships, but I won’t, because that’s not the point of this blog.

However, this whole discussion got me to thinking (more like ranting, and yes, I need to work on that too) about why people who have the same upbringing, sit in the same pew, go to the same youth groups, and gave their lives to the same God, don’t know Him the same way. How did my brother, who was saved the Sunday before I was, hear doctrine when I heard grace!? I also got to thinking…if my brother didn’t get it when he was raised just like I was, then there’s a chance my daughter might not get it either…and “what do I need to do to make sure she ‘gets’ grace?” So, like I do when I’m not sure about something, I started doing some research. I discovered this isn’t a new problem. One of my favorite Baptist preachers, Charles Spurgeon, gave a sermon about this very thing on May 8th 1887:

“The people to whom I am referring really listen to what the preacher has to say; they are attentive, and they seek to retain in their memories the truths he preaches. They even talk when they are at home of the striking passages, if such there be, in what they have heard. You would suppose that such persons would get a blessing from the gospel; yet they do not.” (http://www.newsforchristians.com/spurgeon/chs2411.html)

Spurgeon goes on to discuss this phenomenon and then speaks directly to the hearer in hopes of breaking through the “thick scales” on their eyes. However, I’m not going to reteach what has already been taught. I do recommend you take a look at the sermon, like most of his writings, it’s insightful. I do want to spend some time analyzing the issue.

First, after I’d left the room, my brother confessed to my mother that he didn’t remember any sermon that was taught when he was a child. The only thing he really remembered was a visual using a glass of water and an egg about baptism. What my brother heard was a message on why we believe in immersion (doctrine), and what I heard that day was a message on the internal transformation salvation brings us. So that leads me to my first conclusion.

Not everyone learns the same way. This is a “well duh” statement, but it’s something I think the church is missing. Educators have known for years that we need to meet the needs of every learner in the classroom—we need to teach them they way that they learn best. However, many churches only teach from the perspective of one learning style. I’m a VERY auditory learner. I learn best by listening—which is why I remember so much from the sermons of my childhood. My brother is much more visual—which is why he remembers the example of the egg and water, and not much else. We don’t process information the same way. I can walk into any church and be blessed by a biblically based sermon. He may not get as much out of it, because he doesn’t function like that. The church he attends now, has video, light shows, a darkened auditorium, and active powerpoints to follow during the sermon. I find this distracting and, truthfully, annoying. But, he’s learning and growing there! When taking our children to church, we need to be aware of how they learn, and if the service doesn’t fit their learning style, we need to augment it!

So many times, we parents quote Proverbs 22:6, “Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it” and we see it that we have to teach the kids, but when going back to the original Hebrew, the word train actually is the same word that is used for the process of cleaning out a babies mouth after birth. The word means “create an environment for life.” To quote Mark Hamby, founder of Lamp Light ministries:

“Training our children requires more than simply providing an education. We must create an environment of captivating learning, with experiences that motivate them to passionately pursue worthy goals. External rewards will not suffice; motivation must be intrinsic. We must help to ignite a fire from within so that the child’s passion becomes the driving force behind persevering practice that leads to the achievement of excellence. Turning passivity into passion by providing experiences that cultivate their taste for what is Godly, great, and glorious is the essence of true Biblical ‘training.’”

So, who is responsible for this training? If you’re the parent, the buck stops with you. Our job is not to just take our child to church and hope that it sinks in, or to allow our child to hear our discussions of the sermons. This only works for kids who have active listening skills. Our job is to stand it the gap for our kids. If we attend a church that doesn’t have visual or kinesthetic learning as part of the service, then we need to provide that. Show your child how to take notes during a sermon, or draw a picture with them that teaches the lessons of that day. Be present, and active. Don’t just assume because they heard it they learned it. My daughter is much like me in that she’s very auditory. She loves church services, but doesn’t enjoy Sunday school as much. The reason is her learning style. She soaks up the message in the sermon, often interrupting by asking me questions about what our pastor is teaching (we’ve fixed this by giving her a notebook and when she has a question she has to write it down for discussion after the service). But, Sunday school is trying. It’s a lot of reading, and with her dyslexia it’s frustrating for her. And, although she loves to draw, she doesn’t like structured drawing. She would much rather be asked to create a picture about the sermon on a blank piece of paper than to have to draw what someone told her to. So, what’s my job? I ask her questions about her lesson. We draw pictures—which I proudly place on our fridge. I’m active in her learning.

While sitting in a service, I think there’s something that’s even deeper that we sometimes miss. We assume that our children “got” the message because we did. We forget that they are not adults, and that they process things differently. I’ve noticed this a lot with my daughter. I’ll visit with her about the sermon and she pulled something completely different out of it than I did. This is good, but it shows that we need to assume nothing, and actually converse with our children—every day—about the things God is doing in our lives. If we don’t, we may find that they’re in their mid-thirties and just now “getting” grace—or worse, they may never get it at all.

Lord, help me to see beyond the day-to-day and see the eternal. Thank you for my brother’s growth. I praise you that his walk has become one of joy and service to You. Help me to show my daughter Your grace and love everyday. I want her to know You Lord. Amen

Playlist:

Chris Tomlin, Amazing Grace (My Chains are Gone,) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbe7OruLk8I

Mark Shultz, I Am, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hILaSh78yHQ

Casting Crowns, Stained Glass Masquerade, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gzKOrlPuWzo

Staying Alert in Christ,

Megan

Lord, how do I keep Christmas in my heart…

Posted on December 18, 2013 by Megan

“I will honor Christmas in my heart, and try to keep it all the year.” –Charles Dickens

There are two seasons that I love. Christmas and Easter. I love the emotions both bring to the surface of my consciousness. I love that both center around our church events and that both are centered in Christ. However, lately I’ve felt burdened about the role I allow Christ to play in our Christmas traditions.

When I was in college learning to be a teacher, we often discussed how to help our students to fully grasp deep concepts. One such approach was the “Contributions Approach.” In this approach we would talk about important issues and events around the holidays or birthdays that celebrated them. For instance, teachers would teach a unit about the Reverend Martin Luther King Jr. and his important contribution to our society around his birthday each year. This approach is an “easy” way to discuss important events and topics while keeping your students on schedule with their pre-planned curriculum. Many teachers use this approach, and have for many generations. The problem is, it doesn’t work very well.

The “Contributions Approach” to teaching doesn’t offer depth. It gives your student a glimpse into the window of a subject, but because the point is to be able to stay on track with other curriculum, it usually doesn’t last more than a couple days and then the teacher moves on to the “more important” curriculum to keep the class on track for the year. Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not condemning teachers who do this, have done this, or will do this in the future. The truth is, it’s easy, and it does garner results—but not the results it would have, had the teacher had–or taken–the time to do things a little differently.

Isn’t this what we do at Christmas? We have so many wonderful traditions. It’s a time for family, friends, and communion. It’s a time when we cherish those around us. And, during this precious time, we pause to remember “The reason for the season.”

Wait, did I say that right?

We pause. We break from our normally scheduled programing to think of Christ. Wow. That doesn’t seem right. We too just give our children a glimpse into the window of what Christ did when he visited our little world, but we don’t give Him anymore time than we have to, so we can keep on track with our other, more important, activities.

When we celebrate our daughter’s birthday every year, we make it an event. She usually has two to three get-togethers—a “friend” party, and a get-together for both sides of her family. We spend time planning out her favorite foods, her favorite activities, and we take time to thank God for Mattie being brought into our lives. What if we did this for Jesus? After all, it’s His birthday. What if we made everything we did about Him instead of about us?

What would that look like you ask? It might not look that different. Maybe instead of meeting for Christmas Eve service and then leaving to meet with your family, you take time at your meal to Welcome Jesus at your table. Maybe you share your favorite part of the Christmas story and why. (I think our kids would definitely benefit from hearing the adults be humble and share how Christ has touched them). Perhaps it’s making an extra spot at your Christmas dinner for a family in need who can’t afford a dinner at all. However, it definitely is taking personal time to connect with that baby in the manger.

At a youth event this last year, I heard a speaker talking about Jesus coming to live with us. I thought he was going to say something generic like, “How would you live if Jesus came to stay at your house?” But this speaker took a different approach. He asked why we haven’t signed the mortgage of our house over to God. That we aren’t to just give him a room and a place at the table—our job is to surrender everything to Him, who was willing to surrender everything for us. That’s a radical mindset and it will change the world. Imagine if this Christmas we did that. Imagine if we didn’t just read the Christmas story to our kids, but we connected with them about the depth that was in it…then imagine if we didn’t just do this at Christmas or at Easter. Imagine if we did it all year round. How would that change us? How would it change our kids? How would that change the world?

Lord, this Christmas, I want to be sold out to you. I want to make You the priority and not just fit You in where I can. This Christmas let my daughter see how much I love you. Let my radical faith be a witness so You can transform her life and the world—just like you did with that sweet baby so many years ago. Help me to honor Christmas in my heart and keep it all year. Amen

I think I need a helmet Lord…

Posted on December 9, 2013 by Megan

I know I’m not alone when I sometimes get stressed during the holidays. There’s so much pressure to get the right gifts, in addition to regular work schedules and family time. Then there are all the “Christmas traditions” that I feel we need to do. I feel very overwhelmed and under-appreciated at times. One of those “under-appreciated times” happened just a couple days ago after picking Mattie up from school. We were listening to the radio and a spot came on from Focus on the Family. The spot talked about the importance of making and preserving Christmas traditions. Immediately I thought of making homemade bread, ornaments, and candies with Mattie each year. I thought of the special times spent with family and how we take treats to our neighbors. I thought, “Wow, I’ve got this down!” Then my balloon was popped—well maybe popped isn’t strong enough of a word. My balloon was dive-bombed.

“Mom, why don’t we have any special traditions?” was the innocent question from the backseat. And I felt the impact, Pow! Right on the noggin! “WHAT!?!?” I thought. How could she not know the amount of work I put into Christmas each year? How could she not realize how much I focus on making memories with her? How could she ask that question? I immediately got defensive. “We have tons of traditions. What are you talking about?” Came my snippy reply. “No we don’t,” came her argumentative complaint. “We do the same things everyone else does. We don’t do anything special!”

Wow, that really rang my bell. The strong-willed side of me wanted to say, “Well if you think that, we won’t do any of our traditions this year and see how you like it!” But, I held my tongue. I started listing all of the things we do together as a family. One by one, Mattie started to see the work I put into Christmas for her and our family each year. Here are a couple lessons I’ve learned from this heart-wrenching conversation.

1. Don’t assume. Don’t assume your child knows or sees everything. They are still young and sometimes they add two and two and get zero. Don’t assume they see and appreciate the family time…..which leads me to my next point.

2. Be intentional. Ask your child, “Why do you think we bake bread every year at Christmas?” Tell them that you’re trying to make good memories and teach them important lessons during this special season. This is something I’m trying to do in other areas of my daughter’s life as well. I’m realizing how much she misses—just because I don’t tell her. I assume she knows. The other day, I spent 20 minutes telling her how smart she is. She honestly didn’t know that I thought she was smart. But, how could she? I don’t tell her. We all go about our business expecting that our children understand why we do what we do. But, sometimes they don’t. We have to be intentional with telling them they are loved, they are treasured, they are smart, they are talented. This applies to their relationship with Christ as well. We have to tell them how much God loves them EVERY day. If we don’t, the world will tell them the opposite.

3. Don’t stop. As our children grow older, we tend to stop teaching them. I know I have. Mattie understands so much more now. She’s intuitive and brave, but she’s not an adult. She misses things (truth be told, so do most adults)—things that are important, like traditions. Now that she sees all the traditions we do, she knows that she’s special and that her family loves her. She sees how her father and I treasure her because we desire to spend time with her. But, she didn’t see it before. She saw a stressed out mom who put way too much pressure on herself. And that leads to the next big lesson—

4. Don’t over do it. There’s so much pressure right now with moms trying to be perfect. You can’t be perfect. God didn’t make you perfect. Let go of that aspiration. Instead, focus on the things your child likes to do with you. Mattie loves art and crafts. We make new ornaments for our tree each year. We also purchase special ones from Hobby Lobby as a family. It’s fun and it’s special. We bake bread and make candy (this doesn’t happen every year because it depends on when Christmas break falls), but I don’t go overboard teaching her how to make the fanciest fudge. We take a simple recipe and we make that. The point is not perfection but to make the time precious.

5. Don’t save all your traditions for Christmas. Take time each and every day to be intentional to spend time with your child. We pray together as a family each and every day; we also cook supper together, and do chores together. My resolution this year is to eat more meals at the table together and to read the Word together daily. I read mine, but I don’t share it with my daughter everyday.

Proverbs 22:6 “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.” Read to your child, talk about what’s going on in your life, share how God’s changing you every day, and play with your child. Show your child that they are special and treasured all year long. That way they will know that you love them, and that God loves them. In the end, I’m thankful for Mattie’s dive bomb. It woke me up. It reminded me of some important truths that apply to all of us even if it rang my bell a bit.

Thanks, Lord, for Mattie, and how she challenges me. Thank you for making me sensitive to Your voice coming through a child. I guess maybe I don’t need that helmet after all.

How do I raise a Mary, Lord…

Posted on December 3, 2013 by Megan

The other day, while driving, my daughter and I were discussing what song we might like to sing together for the annual Julatta service at our church. For those of you who don’t live in a area predominantly filled with Swedish descendents, Julatta is a candlelight service that is held before sunrise on Christmas morning. It’s a time that we gather as a church and focus on Christ and the miracle of His birth. It’s beautiful, and the best way to start Christmas. I’m not Swedish, but I love our little community and its wonderful traditions. While Mattie and I were driving, we discussed one of my favorite Christmas songs, “Mary Did You Know?” It’s a classic and we talked about turning it into a duet. But as we drove, a realization hit me. Mary couldn’t have known. She couldn’t have begun to guess what would have happened. She was too young.

Mary was 12 when she was betrothed to Joseph—as was Jewish custom— and would have delivered Jesus at 13. My daughter is 11—just one year younger than Mary when the Angel visited her. I always think of Mary as an adult—wise, and pure. But, she was so young! She may have been like my daughter. Mattie talks to me about what kind of man she wants to marry (he should look like Thor, have Captain America’s morals and courage, be a Christian, and a cowboy—high standards!), how she’s frightened to get her period, and how she’s not sure she wants to have kids because she knows it will hurt. She’s a normal, sweet girl, who has normal and sweet fears. She worries about things that I know will turn out okay in the end, but it’s good for her to explore these fears. I remember having them. I remember not wanting to get married because I didn’t want to have sex and have a baby–both I thought were gross! It scared me. I remembered being afraid the first time a boy held my hand. I remember the nerves, the pimples, and the anxiety. Mary was right in the middle of this stage—just as Mattie is beginning it now. She must have been scared because the Angel had to say, “Do not be afraid, Mary; you have found favor with God,” (Luke 1:30) to calm her. And what he said next, would have been terrifying. “You will conceive and give birth to a son, and you are to call him Jesus. He will be great and will be called the Son of the Most High. The Lord God will give him the throne of his father David, and he will reign over Jacob’s descendants forever; his kingdom will never end.” (Luke 1: 31-33)

As I look back on this time in my life, I wonder what I would have said had the Angel appeared to me. Was I strong enough to conquer my fears? Is Mattie that strong? Mary’s answer speaks through the ages. “I am the Lord’s servant…May your word to me be fulfilled.” She took her fear, swallowed it, and took the cross that was assigned to her by God.

As adults, we know how hard life can be. Not everything God places in our paths is easy—there’s a reason why life is often called a trial. I wonder what Mary’s mom did that made her so strong—so willing to obey. I’ve heard some mothers say that obedience is what they expect most out of their children. I think that’s fair when a child is young. However, at some point, we need to help bridge the gap between making our children do what’s right because we said it was right, and guiding them into the right decision because it’s their decision to make.

Working in education for the last 10 years, I’ve seen many Christian teens at this crossroad. They are ready to break out on their own. Some parents just let them go—they want them to learn from their actions. They offer too much freedom and the world rejoices. Others close ranks and try to keep the world at bay. Rebellion undeniably is the response to both of these parenting choices. I’ve seen Christian kids go wild because when they became teenagers they stopped getting parented. And, I’ve also seen Christian teens rebel and become sullen and angry because they aren’t allowed to make any decision on their own.

So, how do we help these tweens and teens to not just obey, but believe? They have to know that they know that God is mighty and can do all things. First, we can’t be overprotective. The world is full of examples, both good and bad, that we can use to teach our children about God. Shutting the world out and expecting them to survive in it after they’re grown is foolish. Second, we have to let them take the walk with us. They have to hear our fears, see our failures, and watch God take control and lead us out of it. In order for God to be real to them, He has to be real to us! If we want them to have a life altering faith, they have to learn it from us! I’ve seen many Christian parents who try to have everything put together, but their kids don’t really know them. They want to be a “good” example, so they don’t show their kids what it’s really like to have a real faith in God. So, these kids don’t know how to grow because they’ve never seen growth. It’s amazing what a real example can do.

I’m not saying confess all your deepest fears and frustrations to your children. That’s not healthy for either of you. You are their parent. But let them get to know you. Let them see who you really are. Share appropriate frustrations. Let them see you cry. Let them see you pray! Let them see that miracles happen everyday if you let God lead you. Don’t be their warden or their friend. Be their guide. Help lead them into the Light of Christ by following you as you follow Him.

I wish I could say I’ve mastered this. I haven’t. I have a tendency to be pretty authoritative. But, if I want Mattie to have the kind of faith that Mary had, I’ve got to see beyond obedience, and start to see what’s at stake. I’ve got to be her guide.

Lord, I want Mattie to be like Mary. I want her to be strong and overcome her fears. Help me to be the kind of mom that leads by example—for the good and the bad–so that when her cross stands before her, she’ll choose of her own will, to take it up and follow You.

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